How do you get on when you finish writing? How do you read it without judgment when you read it through?
Walking aid: We built this next step into the book. You write about where you are now, and then the next question is where do you want to be. There is a room to introduce yourself, sit, introduce yourself, call and work wherever you want. If you write that down then, when you’re able to get past that block – and sometimes it can take weeks, it can be a month, it can be a year, it can take ten calls, it can take a little biohacking – and Bringing it into the action area is the next step.
But the field of imagination, the field of thinking, is very different from the field of action. Now you know what you thought about it before and you know where you are going now. So what can you do and what steps can you take to make it happen? People often need to focus on doing something rather than just talking about something, but what are these steps to make change happen? Think about what you don’t want, think about what you want, think about the first three to five steps you need to take to get there, and then do them. When you get stuck, the point is to be gentle with yourself and give yourself permission to imagine something – just be open. It doesn’t have to be a perfect solution, but let something come, don’t judge it and move from there.
Diamond: We are such creatures of habit and our habits are so dictated by what feels comfortable to us, what is dictated by our childhood psychology, the traumatic experiences we have had in our lives, be it emotional, physical or spiritual. Through this matrix we decide how we see and how we want to work and how we build the comfort zone in which we live. Our actions often arise from this, and we tend to do the same thing over and over again until we get so fed up and tired that we hit rock bottom and feel like we need to create some kind of change. A deep will within us realizes that the pattern that we hold on to and carry on every day is so sick or nauseated that we cannot bear to continue doing it for a moment.
What is difficult is when you are not at one of these break points. Often times you will know that you need to make changes, but you will always turn down the opportunities to change because you are not ready yet. You almost want the changes to sound harder than they are, but they’re pretty easy. Identify point A, point B, and the steps in between. But getting to the point where you commit because you want to is completely different from just holding onto the idea.
One of my favorite scenes in the film is I Heart Huckabees, in which Dustin Hoffman and Lily Tomlin play existential detectives. They follow people around and observe and record their behavior. When reproducing the behavior of one of the characters [played by Jude Law]the character hears him telling the same story over and over and vomits. It’s just the best visual expression of what that breaking point looks like when we have to get so sick from the way we’ve been constrained and inhibited that we’re ready to start over.
Walking aid: I love this movie reference. I never thought of that. You really have to be so tired of your old pattern that you want to change it up. You really just have to be over it. This helps. It’s like Groundhog Day, basically flipping the same story and living the same story. He needs to wake up and realize that he needs to change history. That’s what all these films are about. That’s human; This is how we develop.